Updated: Nov 23, 2020
Whether you realize it or not, you are already using affirmations in your day to day life. Things like "The house is always a mess." "Everything I eat goes straight to my hips" and "Nobody likes me" are said on the daily. If you listen for it, you will hear people limiting themselves like this every single day. If you pay close attention, you will also begin to notice that the people that make these type of negative statements, are often also the people that seem to suffer the most. These statements are called "Negative Affirmations" and unfortunately, they are the default for many of us.
The truth about your brain is: Whatever you think/ believe/ feel IS creating your reality. You are telling your brain what to expect and your brain is acting accordingly. Whatever you are looking for - you will find it.
That is why it is so important to shift your focus at times, especially when you are feeling overwhelmed, stressed, or are going through big life changes.
This is where Positive Affirmations come in, also called Self-Affirmations. Backed by science, self-affirmations are useful for re-training your brain to better adapt to stress, have a more positive outlook, and to be more open to positive behavioral change.
Here's a few examples of self affirmations that I personally resonate with:
I trust myself to make the right choices at the right time.
I possess all the qualities I need to be successful.
Happiness is a choice that I choose everyday.
In all things, I show up for myself fully.
I am always in the right place at the right time.
If these resonate with you, awesome! Use them! IF not, here's how to create your own:
1. Use " I am " statements. Think about how powerful those two words are. I am. You can put ANYTHING after them.
2. Keep it in the present tense. This is now - make sure your affirmation reflects that.
3. Be specific and direct.
4. Be positive. This is about what you DO WANT, not what you don't want.
5. Be open to aligning with it. Believe it or not, positive affirmations can often be met with resistance. It's HARD to change your thinking, but keep it up!
Once you've got your affirmation, write it down and post it somewhere you will see it daily. (Mine are in my bathroom) The goal here is to read them out lout at least once every day. Do this even if you don’t feel it, because at first, you probably won't. This isn't about being inauthentic, this is about changing the pathways in your brain and bringing in new information about you, your life and what you should expect from it.
Let's talk about it:
How often do you find yourself using negative affirmations?
Which positive affirmations are the most meaningful for you?
Have positive affirmations been successful for you?
see you soon, xoxo, jae
P.S. If you want more reading, check out 5 Steps to Make Affirmations Work For You on Psychology Today!